Sex Therapy for Couples

You can have it all – open, communicative and balanced relationships in combination with passionate, fulfilling sexual connections. So often in our sex therapy for couples practice we see women settling and shutting down. And men going through their “mid-life crises,” because there is no room in the relationship for growth, change and an ongoing exploration of the mysteries of sex and love.

We see couples who are deeply entrenched in their Relationship Vortex and are constantly, but unconsciously, stepping on each others’ deepest wounds. We help them resolve the vortex and increase intimacy so they can have a strong relationship foundation. In addition, we work with couples who have different desires, who are experiencing sexless marriages, or who want to find new and exciting ways to enhance their sex lives. You can start your journey now!

Create a Strong Relationship Foundation

Take a moment and let yourself connect with how you want to feel in your relationship. Feel the desire to be loved, appreciated, accepted, desired, supported, sexually satisfied, received, safe, valued, seen and celebrated. We are told constantly by fairy tales, Hollywood, and porn that these things are just supposed to come to us when we fall in love. The truth is – relationships require conscious attention and nurturing.

Our experiential, empathy-based, and body-based sex therapy and relationship coaching help couples attend to their relationship in a way that increases intimacy, communication, desire and pleasure. When it comes to the relationship vortex, we help you see the ways you are subtly blaming and shaming yourself and/or your partner. We help you change these negative habits, so you can experience the growth and healing that a relationship has the potential to provide. We help you use the difficult times in your relationship to build more intimacy instead of eroding it. If you are both committed and learn to use all of your resources, you will be amazed to experience what is possible!

Bridging Differing Desires

Oftentimes, when two people first make a commitment to each other, they are in the midst of the honeymoon period where they both feel the other wants everything they want and has everything they need. As they learn more about each other, they find there are differences in desires – both inside and outside of the bedroom. These can be as simple as what kind of movies they want to watch – and as complex as one partner wanting monogamy and the other wanting an open relationship. Whether they are simple or complex, if unaddressed, they can have very dire consequences for the relationship. In our sex therapy for couples sessions, we focus on acceptance and empathy to help you negotiate these differing desires so each partner can be heard and fully received. You can begin to create an agreement that works for both of you and the relationship right now.

Revitalize Your Sexless (or Low Sex) Marriage or Relationship

In long-term relationships, sex can end up on the back burner – behind work, children and the daily chores of living. Sometimes, a couple ends up having very little sex. In some relationships, couples stop having sex altogether.

We help you understand that good sex requires more than just good communication – it requires creativity, bravery and playfulness to create a relationship where seduction, passion and desire can grow and thrive. Start your passionate journey now!

Recover from an Affair

Secret affairs can be extremely painful because your partner, in whom you’ve invested so much trust, has lied to you and broken an agreement. At the same time, if you want to recover from an affair, it does not help to think of one party as the helpless victim and the other as the evil perpetrator. Once an affair has been discovered or confessed, you will both need to decide if you want to face the process of looking at the issues in the relationship (and the affair as a symptom of these issues) – rather than labeling the person who had the affair as the sole cause of the problem. If you decide you want to face it together, we can help you  recover from the affair.

In Our Sex Therapy for Couples and Relationship Coaching Sessions We Help You:

  • Heal from past hurts and resentments
  • Communicate in a way that restores intimacy and invites deeper love
  • Share your most vulnerable desires without pressure or judgment
  • Bridge different types or amounts of desire
  • Overcome lifelong intimacy blocks that get in the way of connection
  • Learn how to give each other your Hottest Sexual Movie
  • Explore new ways to feel the spark between you light up

Take your relationship to a level of communication, love and connection you never thought possible. In our sex therapy for couples sessions, we will begin with where you are in your relationship, making sure there is connection, empathy and acceptance, and moving to creating the most fulfilling sexual connection between the two of you.

What to Do Next:

“I believe I have successfully graduated. My wife and I went away over the weekend and I rocked her world. Finally! Success! She said she had waves of orgasm during intercourse that she had never experienced. She noted how engaged and present I was during our lovemaking. She can hardly wait to do it again. Thank you so much for all your help!”

Client
Richmond, CA

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