Expand Your Erotic Repertoire
Many couples we see have a good relationship foundation and attraction and desire for one another but have noticed that sex has become routine. We have this mistaken belief in our society that great sex is just supposed to happen, however, in long-term relationships or relationships where there wasn’t a strong sexual foundation to begin with, couples need to consciously invest time, creativity, and energy into keeping their sex life alive and interesting. In our sex and relationship coaching sessions, we help couples enhance and expand their sexual repertoire in order to have ongoing desire. We help you dive into the realms of sensation, fantasy, and passionate connection to create an exciting and multi-faceted sexual relationship between you and your partner.
In sex therapy and relationship coaching sessions, we help you identify your individual wants and learn how to share them in a way that invites your partner to actively engage with and support who each of you really are and what you really want. When you make this room, you can experience the honeymoon feeling over and over again in long-term relationships. Find out more about all the different ways you can expand in our article about The Three Sexual Realms.
- Part 7 – Relationships are about Repair not Perfection
Check On Your Partner’s Counter-Emotions:
In many instances where emotions are present in a relationship, each partner has emotions that need to be shared and understood. Don’t assume just because you are making the initial complaint that your partner is only supposed to listen to you. Make space after you
- Ultimatums – Foul or Tool?
As a culture, we tend to look at ultimatums as a cut and dry relationship foul, and often report damningly to our friends when a partner has issued one. “She gave me an ultimatum,” you might say to your friend as they gasp and shake their head, “How could
- What You Don’t Know about Desire is Killing Your Sex Life
It seems that everywhere we look we see couples in long term relationship suffering from challenges in their intimacy and sexual connection. More than half of all marriages end in divorce and a large number of those who stay married report feeling dissatisfaction in their sexual and emotional connection.
- The Top 3 Worst Flirting Mistakes
Flirting is a very vulnerable endeavor – to flirt is to open up your desirous, erotic parts to connect with another’s. Opening up and allowing your erotic energy to flow is a big part of what makes it so energizing and exciting. At the same time, no one wants
- Boundaries – One Key to Magical, Healing Relationships
In our work, we talk to people all the time about the importance of knowing their desires and boundaries. It seems obvious why knowing one’s desires would be important – the more we know about what we want, the more likely we are to pursue self-affirming life experiences and
- The Secret to Getting What You Want in Your Relationship is Asking for it
Last week we discussed the damaging myth “If your partner really loved you, you would never have to ask for what you want“. One of the reasons that many people still operate under this damaging assumption is that they believe that if they have to ask, it
- Why People Choose to Cheat Even when it Might Destroy their Relationship
In popular culture, affairs are portrayed as the ultimate, unforgivable relationship sin. The person who cheats is thought of as untrustworthy at best and, at worst, as downright evil. Yet, affairs happen all the time in relationships. In our work, we have found cheating to be more of a
- Boundaries part 3 – How Can You Tell When You Are Letting Your Boundaries Be Crossed?
A queasy or shut down feeling in the body or anger are good signs that you feel someone is asking you to cross your boundaries, you are about to let your boundary be crossed or you have let your boundary be crossed. Please notice that we are not saying that someone is crossing your boundaries,