Expand Your Erotic Repertoire
Many couples we see have a good relationship foundation and attraction and desire for one another but have noticed that sex has become routine. We have this mistaken belief in our society that great sex is just supposed to happen, however, in long-term relationships or relationships where there wasn’t a strong sexual foundation to begin with, couples need to consciously invest time, creativity, and energy into keeping their sex life alive and interesting. In our sex and relationship coaching sessions, we help couples enhance and expand their sexual repertoire in order to have ongoing desire. We help you dive into the realms of sensation, fantasy, and passionate connection to create an exciting and multi-faceted sexual relationship between you and your partner.
In sex therapy and relationship coaching sessions, we help you identify your individual wants and learn how to share them in a way that invites your partner to actively engage with and support who each of you really are and what you really want. When you make this room, you can experience the honeymoon feeling over and over again in long-term relationships. Find out more about all the different ways you can expand in our article about The Three Sexual Realms.
- After the Fall: Moving Beyond the Honeymoon
Researchers, therapists, and the media generally refer to the first six to eighteen months of any relationship as the “honeymoon period.” In the beginning, you don’t know what will happen between the two of you and you don’t know much about the person with whom you are trying to
- The Open Relationship Toolkit: 6 Keys To Success in Honest Outsourcing
To begin honest outsourcing takes an acknowledgment that no one person, or relationship, can ever fulfill all of our desires or needs, nor should we want it to. Most people already acknowledge this in one way or another, but when it comes to outsourcing sex or romance many folks
- Part 3 – Relationships are about Repair not Perfection
Relationship Repair – Step #3
Stop Making Yourself The Bad Guy/Gal (and/or trying to defend your reputation). Usually when we hear our partner is distressed about something we did, we feel bad about ourselves and disconnect or immediately try to solve the problem or at least defend our reputation. It
- Part 2 – Relationships are about Repair not Perfection
Relationship Repair – Step #2
Name The Emotion – If you or your partner are stuck in facts and figures, accusations or debates, either one at any moment can shift and name the emotions. For example, if Janet was frustrated when she came home and found and empty house and
- Ultimatums – Foul or Tool?
As a culture, we tend to look at ultimatums as a cut and dry relationship foul, and often report damningly to our friends when a partner has issued one. “She gave me an ultimatum,” you might say to your friend as they gasp and shake their head, “How could
- Attraction: The Reasons You Choose Your Partner May Surprise You
While it is true that part of attraction is physical, much of it has a lot more to do with familiarity (and often physical attraction is also based on particular kinds of familiarity). It is no coincidence that the root word of “familiarity” is “family”: When you choose a
- An Introduction to Outsourcing (Not the Donald Trump Kind)
Whether you acknowledge it or not, some desires get met in your primary relationship, and some desires you outsource. We are not talking about the kind of economic outsourcing that Donald Trump promises to end if president (even though his own line of suits is manufactured overseas),
- Non-Monogamy Realness: The Pros and Cons of Honest Outsourcing
Whenever we talk to anyone about non-monogamy, the first question we always get is “Yes, in theory, but do non-monogamous relationships really work?” The simple answer is yes. Both monogamous and open relationships have their places of ease and their challenges which are quite different. For example, those who