Celeste & Danielle Offer Sex and Relationship Coaching for a Passionate, Connected and Fulfilling Life

Wanna learn how you can give and receive the best clitoral orgasms? In the 6th episode of their 9-video series on women’s empowerment, sex coaches Celeste and Danielle tell us why psychological arousal is so important. Watch them discuss what you should – and shouldn’t – do during physical foreplay; and how you can give your partner the most intense orgasm via the clit.

 

(Below is the slightly edited video transcript)

 

How to Get Warmed up Right

Celeste:  Today we’re gonna talk about clitoral orgasms and all of the pleasure a clitoris can have.

For me, the clitoris has so much to do with psychological arousal. If you want to talk to my clit, firstly you have to sneak up on her. Not just go jabbing at her right away. And I think it’s really different (for women). I understand that for men, a lot of times, they’re ready for their cock to be touched right away.

If you’re being a lover to man, you probably can’t touch it too soon, or too often, or lick it, or suck it. So they’re ready. But I think because of that, they think that we’re the same. And we so aren’t.

Danielle:  At all.

Celeste: At all! When you first get warmed up psychologically and physiologically with your clit, she starts to peek out. Like – ooh something good might be happening soon. Or – no, no, that’s too soon! I’m going back into my hole and all the arousal drops.

Danielle: She’s very sneaky. The clit is very sneaky. And so she goes in and out.

Celeste: So she needs to be snuck up on. And I think that’s something to teach your lovers as part of your erotic empowerment. And what does it mean to sneak up on it, right?

Danielle:  What I really like is when I’m snuck on from behind. And then if my lover is touching the whole body. And then just barely touching my pussy. Just a very general caress. It’s not targeted right away at my clit, at all. Very general, a full hand caress, very light. And then it goes anywhere else.

 

Foreplay is a Worthy Investment

Celeste: So you start to get this teasing feeling. Like – oh, I’m going to sneak up on you, but I’m not gonna just focus in yet. And the other ways that you sneak up is by saying sexy things, whispering sexy things in my ear. Or caressing my whole body, biting my neck, nibbling on an ear lobe. My clit starts to come alive when those things are happening And I think that’s what people don’t realize.

Danielle: I tell people foreplay is worth the investment. And foreplay doesn’t start with nipples or pussy – foreplay is way way before.

Celeste: Physically going very very slow and creating anticipation. I think the problem is people go right to the clit itself. For me, you need to have a more broad brush approach. Like you’re using three fingers instead of one finger and you’re not doing it pointy. You’re doing it flat, right?

Gently rubbing, circles or caressing, or same with your tongue, like your like an ice cream cone.

Danielle: Some clits are more sneaky and they do tend to kinda hide, even when they are aroused. So taking a much more broad approach, like using your whole hand, and going up and down and really trying to hook on it. This will be much more inviting for the clit to come out instead of just… run away and hide.

Celeste: I also like my clit kissed. ‘Cause it’s a little like … ooh, ooh, ooh. And I do think women’s performance anxiety comes in when you start touching the clit too fast, and its like you’re trying to make an orgasm happen. As opposed to just like – I’m exploring this and I could stay here forever and it smells so good. This is the attitude, right? And it smells so good, and it tastes so good and it’s so perfect that however long it takes, I don’t care. I’ll be down here enjoying myself.

I feel like that’s what we wanna express to our partners. Men – if your listening that’s what we want you to do for us women. And it’s only when you can feel your body clenching and moving, that we want for the stimulation to be more direct and constant and not get all creative. It’s at that moment that we’re ready for somebody to stick with their guns and really go for the orgasm. But until then it really needs to be snuck up on.

 

The Power of Breath

Danielle:  I want to talk about the power of breath and sound when you’re receiving clitoral pleasure. Always have some sort of stimulation on the clit. Don’t just wait for it to have a magical orgasm without touching the clit. The clit is the source of our pleasure and even if you we have other orgasms, the clit makes everything feel better.

Celeste:  So don’t think of this “orgasm during intercourse without any other stimulation” as the holy grail – it is not. In fact it’s probably gonna be a less intense orgasm than if you are using you’re hand on your clit. Or if you’re using your vibrator at the same time that you’re getting penetrated.

Danielle:  So back to sound and breath. We tend to – when we get or try to squeeze the clitoral orgasm, to get into a little bit of a “work-gasm” mode. We really stop the breath. And it’s good to kinda squeeze the breath and hold it a little bit. But it’s really also very powerful when you release the breath and spread the sensations much more into your body. And then when you get much closer to orgasm, it’s a good time to hold the breath and keep it squeezed. But if you notice that you’re squeezing, squeezing, squeezing, trying to get to orgasm – it means you’re working too hard, and sex is about fun and not about working hard.

Celeste:  But you definitely do usually need to squeeze your muscles. Clitoral orgasm for me is all in my legs and thighs. And I have to smooth them, and squeeze them, and they need to be free to move and squeeze as they please.

 

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In the 5th episode of their 9-video series on women’s empowerment, Celeste and Danielle give foreplay tips and ideas for women and their partners, and talk about all the fun and pleasure you can have warming up. Because after all – foreplay is an integral part of sex, seduction is key, and taking charge of it yourself is an important element of female erotic empowerment.

 


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The Secret How to be a Great Lover to Your Partner

Danielle:  So, today we’re going to talk to you about all the pleasure you can have.

Celeste: I think when you really get into your erotic empowerment, you want it all. And I think it’s good to want it all. Stop apologizing. Saying, “Oh, I take a long time to warm up,”or, “It seems like I need this, and this, and this, to get off.”

So, I’m going to tell you a secret about what we do. I wanna start by just saying – a lot of times, we trick women. What we say is, “We’re gonna teach you how to be a great lover to your partner.” And then when they come in, we say, “You know what would make you a great lover to your partner?”

Danielle:  If you get into your own arousal, and your own sexuality. They’re gonna love it. They won’t get enough of you.

Celeste: Cause what really turns people on is to feel authentic desire coming their way. If you’re trying to give to somebody else, but you’re not even feeling what you want, and you’re not asking for what you want – I think, especially if you’re partner is a man. What he wants is a woman who is just really excited, and turned on, and wanting sex. For herself, on her own terms. As opposed to doing it out of obligation, because your partner wants it. Which is so boring and depressing.

Danielle: It is! I do have clients and friends that tell me, “Oh, I put it on my calendar.” I said, “Okay, that’s not a bad beginning.” But how did we get there? It’s really hard to get from obligation to arousal.

 

Seduction is Key

Celeste:  Yeah, there’s nothing sexy about obligation. What is sexy is really finding out all of the ways you can experience pleasure in your body, and in your psyche. I think for women, a lot of what turns us on the most is the build up. Seduction! Both the seduction in our brain, and the seduction in our body. Because we want all of that – light, tender touch, mixed with grabbing and holding. We also want to hear – and this is hard especially for men – all about how amazing we are. How sexy we are. And how much we’re wanted.

Danielle:  And how beautiful we are.

Celeste:  That’s something women don’t feel like they can ask for. When somebody says, “What do you want sexually?” We think we need tell them about how to touch our clit properly. Which is a really good think to tell people and very few people know how to do it very well.

I’m always, “Oh, we’re going to give you the lesson on that in a little while. Let’s start with how I need you to look at me. Then what I want you to say to me.”

Danielle:  I personally cannot orgasm without my partner telling me something that turns me on verbally. Otherwise, nothing brings me over the edge.

Celeste: So we need that psychological arousal.  And we need good touch, and good physiological arousal. We need people not go grabbing our boobs, and rubbing our clit really hard in the first five minutes of sex.

Danielle:  For me it would be the first forty-five minutes of sex.

Celeste: We need to really get in touch with how we have our orgasm. Once our body has warmed up, and we’ve been kissed, and bitten, and licked in all the right places. What kind of orgasms can we have? How do we learn about that in our own body?

In the next video, we’ll talk about all the different ways we can get to our orgasm. And bring your vibrator everywhere you go!

 

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Why are women often so horny before their period? In the 4th episode of their 9-video series on women’s empowerment, Celeste and Danielle teach you how to acknowledge the tiger in the cage who wants sex, how to stay immersed in the desire, and prioritize it. They talk about how you can act on the cues your body gives to connect with your arousal, and go after what you want.

 

 

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Acknowledging the Horny Tiger in The Cage

Celeste:  I know at the beginning of my month, at the moment I start bleeding, I feel like a tiger in a cage. If I don’t get sex, I’m just clawing, and things are going to go poorly for everyone around me.

Danielle:  For me, actually, this horniness, is a sign I’m going to get my period tomorrow. The night before, I get so horny, I literally feel like the tiger in a cage. I’m climbing walls, that’s how much I wanna have sex.

Celeste:  I don’t think that women talk to each other about horniness. It’s like we think that that’s men purview. Men are the ones who say “I can’t wait to have sex” – but I think we feel that way a lot. A lot of women don’t even acknowledge that that’s what the feeling is. And maybe they just get frustrated, or eat, or do something else. They just kind of sublimate that desire, instead of asking, “Where am I gonna get my sex from?”

I love my vibrator, but I wanna have sex. I need something inside of me.

Danielle: The truth is that at that time of the months, we have different needs for different kinds of stimulation. Such as deeper stimulation – as opposed to clitoral stimulation.

 

How To Claim Your Sexual Energy and Desire

Celeste:  But what do we do with this tiger energy? That’s the part that I really think is a big step in women’s sexual empowerment. To claim that desirous energy for themselves.

Danielle:  I think it’s not so much about whether you want to have sex all the time. It’s really about honoring the times that you do wanna have sex, and giving yourself permission to feel it and claim it.

Celeste:  I wanna say something about being a woman who wants to have sex all the time. I have felt a little alienated with other women. Kind of misunderstood and weird. I used to hide that, but now I just tell everyone all the time. It’s all I wanna talk about – sex. And my best friends are the ones who wanna hear about it.

It’s a very deep, exciting part of who I am in my life. And I do feel like – for women and men – that is not something that’s celebrated. It’s thought of as trivial or sort of “extra”. Like you have to do all of the other things first – and then you go after sex.

Danielle:  Like it’s the last thing on the list.

Celeste:  For me it is like, if I wait and put sex as the last thing on my list, I’m a miserable human being.

Danielle:  There is no list for you. :: laughs ::

 

Let Yourself Say You Want Sex

Celeste:  I swear – I feel there would be way less anti-depressants in the world for women. I feel like there would be way less frustration and anger in relationships if women just started to say “Maybe this feeling inside of me, this intensity, means that I want to fuck”.

Danielle:  You can try the sentence: “I want to fuck.”

Celeste:  I don’t think women say that very often. Or at all.

Danielle:  It’s not “nice” to say something like that.

Celeste:  Women are supposed to be nice. Didn’t they say well behaved women rarely make history?

Danielle: That’s correct.

Celeste:  Our sex life is a place that we have been taught to behave. I think that dampens down – again – our erotic power in every area of our lives.

Danielle: So we want to invite you to notice those differences in your arousal. Sometimes you might feel like openness throughout you, and more like a spreading sensation. And sometimes you’re gonna feel very focused, like a hunter who says: “I wanna have sex now.”

Just start to recognize those differences and let yourself have it. Let yourself say what you want.

Celeste:  Women have the potential for endless pleasure, and it is the best kept secret. And we’re gonna tell you how to get it.

 

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PMS mood swings – what do you do with all the information these feelings offer us women during that time of the month? And how does it relate to pussy power?

Celeste & Danielle tell you all about it in the 3rd episode of their 9-video series on women’s empowerment.

 


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The Core of PMS Mood Swings

Celeste:  So today we’re going to talk about PMS and how it relates to Pussy Power. Why?

Danielle: Because … Celeste is PMSing!

Celeste:  Totally PMSing! My brain is not working, and I’m grumbly and pissed off. I think in our society, we have this feeling like this (PMS) is something wrong with us that we’re supposed to hide. We’re supposed to pretend this doesn’t happen. But I think it’s part of our pussy power.

If we listen! And don’t ignore it, or don’t beat ourselves up for fact that we have emotions. Because women have emotions, men have emotions, everyone has emotions! I think one of the lucky things for women in general is that we are less oppressed and repressed around our emotions than men.

But the question is – how do we embrace our full emotional self at all times?

 

The Rollercoaster of PMS Emotions

Danielle:  Many times, women feel very rageful in their PMS, or sad, or confused. When I have my PMS, I have this special sentence that says “I have no friends”. That’s for me the key that I probably have PMS. I say it usually while talking on the phone with Celeste… “I have NO friends! It’s horrible!”

Celeste: And I’m feeling either like “I hate everyone” or “I love everyone.”

Danielle:  When I’m PSMing, everything goes out the window. We kinda become a different part of ourselves that we don’t know.

But if we embrace it, it can really help us see “What is the knowledge we get out of it?” And – how we can reconnect with this part instead of trying to reject it? Because it’s showing up anyway – so …

 

Sorting out Your Feelings

Celeste: It is good to sort it out. It is a part of ourselves.  We do get it every month – for 30 years. I think the sorting we need to do is … we need to say “Okay, whatever I’m feeling – emotionally – it’s exaggerated at this time of the month.” But that doesn’t mean it’s not real.

It might be leading us to a sense of “What is it that we really need? And what needs to change in our life?” So I think it’s so serious. But we also don’t have to manage it.

Danielle: And it’s ok if you sometimes in the month feel like, “oh, I have no friends.” Call your friends! Make sure you have them.

Sometimes it’s just a call for action to find that people love you. You always need more love in your life. You need more reassurance, you need more care.

Celeste: And usually when I am on my period, or when I’m PMSing, instead of saying to them “I need more care” or “I need someone to hold me (while I cry for seemingly no reason), we say “You’ve done all those horrible things to me. How could you?”

And then the people who we need the most are feeling pushed away. They’re terrified, in the corner of the house, shaking, saying “Maybe it’ll be over soon.”

 

How Do We Honor Our PMS Mood Swings?

Celeste:  So if we honor our period, we can instead think: “Okay, how do I become most empowered in this time of the month?” (As opposed to just letting it take over, and getting upset with everyone else.)

We should think, “What am I probably gonna need at this time?” Not – “Maybe it’s never gonna happen again.”

It can be helpful to even just write down a list – to know what you need when you’re in that phase of your month. Also, it takes a village to take care of any human being. So think about who can you call in your village to help take care of you at that moment.

Whether you need cuddles, or need to be able to cry for no reason. Also, there’s so much shame around just crying for “no reason”. Maybe the reason we cry at that time is because it’s healthy to move emotions through our body. We need a time of release.

Because if we don’t feel and move the emotions through our bodies, we disconnect from our pussy. It can get in the way of our pussy power. And nothing must get in the way of our pussy power!

 

In the next video, we’re gonna talk to you about how to stay connected with your pussy power – before your period, while you’re in PMS, or in different times of the month.

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The quickest path to awaken your sexual power starts with some sexy breathing exercises. They will help connect you to your body, and make you feel alive and ready for pleasure.

Let sex coaches Celeste & Danielle guide you in learning how to breathe and tap into your sexual energy with the 2nd Episode in their 9-video series on female and sexual empowerment. 

 

(Below is the slightly edited video transcript)

 

Why Focused, Sexy Breathing is so Powerful

Celeste: Now it’s time to talk about pussy (sexual) power – and how to get there. And the quickest road to pussy power is breath.

We always say “Pussy is the oracle”. She tells us everything we want in our lives. In order to get in touch with your oracle, you have to breathe all the way down.

Breath helps me in every moment of my life. Mostly because I have anxiety sometimes. And sometimes I just feel a little discombobulated. I want to always come back to myself, and to my inner knowledge, my pussy power, and taking a few deep breaths.

It’s not like you have to spend hours meditating. I don’t like to bring a bunch of guilt into all of this. You can breathe with your pussy when you’re driving in the car. And suddenly it’s like “oh yeah, I remember who I am. I remember what I want.”

 

How to Use Breath to Tap Into Your Sexual Power – An Exercise

Danielle:  And I like to breathe because it’s essential – but I really love to breathe because it helps me center myself and connect.

I’m gonna invite you to close your eyes. Start breathing through your mouth. Take a breath into your chest. And the next breath into your stomach. You can also put your hand on your belly to feel your breath.

And with the next breath – bring it all the way down to your pelvic floor. Let yourself feel your pelvic floor. Stretch when you inhale, and relax back when you exhale.

With the next breath, imagine the breath like an inner masseuse, sliding in and really like helping you have more room in your body.

Then bring the breath all the way down to your pelvic floor again. When it hits your pelvic floor, give it a nice little squeeze. Then push the breath back up. So inhale and squeeze your pelvic floor – as if you tried to stop yourself from peeing. Inhale. Squeeze. Exhale.

Let’s take a few deeper breaths, and maybe even faster. Inhale – squeeze – and exhale. And then squeeze and hold everything. And when you can’t hold anymore, just let go.

Lastly – stay in your body and feel the sensations.

 

The Feeling of Pussy Power

Danielle: You might not be feeling anything, if that’s the first time that you are doing it, and that’s totally fine. You might feel a beginning of warmth in your pussy, in your belly, in your chest.

Celeste:  I generally feel so much energy flushing through my body. Suddenly my brain works better, and I feel like I can take on the world right now.

Danielle:  The world is brighter. The flowers are more beautiful.

Celeste: It’s part of women’s erotic empowerment to really feel connected to your pussy.

 

In our next video, we’re gonna talk about PMS, and how it relates to pussy power. Stay tuned!

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