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3 Causes of Psychological Erectile Dysfunction (ED) – and How To Heal Them Without Drugs

Countless men suffer from erectile dysfunction (or ED), the inability to get or maintain an erection. While many drugs, such as Viagra and Cialis, are available to mask the symptoms, they do not deal with the underlying causes of ED. For some men, these drugs are not an effective solution and for others, who have medical conditions that prohibit the use of performance-enhancing drugs, there can still be help. Also, there are some men out there who want to fix ED, but simply do not want to be reliant on a drug. While we are not against drugs as one possible pathway to greater confidence, we believe starting with more natural, holistic solutions should be first. We work with many men who deal with erectile dysfunction and want men to know that, for many of you, there are alternative solutions, especially when the root of erectile dysfunction is psychological as opposed to physiological.

One way to tell if you are dealing with psychological ED is if it is not across the board. In other words, if you feel comfortable and relaxed and have perfectly normal erections during masturbation but cannot get them with a partner, you are likely dealing with psychological ED. (Note: If you are having ED in all situations, even masturbation, make sure you get it checked out as it can be a sign of heart disease). We have found that psychological ED has at least 3 underlying roots and we are offering a short series explaining each of the roots and how to deal with them. It is also possible to be dealing with two or all three of the underlying causes at once. We believe you are the expert on your own life and sexual health. In reading these articles, you might consider which underlying causes of ED feel like they might apply to you. For partners of folks dealing with ED, take account of what you know about your partner, and see if any of these seem to fit. The three underlying causes that we have found are performance anxiety, impulse control (too much, not too little) and a functional response to a dysfunctional situation (where you have very good reasons NOT to be having sex with the person you are attempting to have it with and your penis knows better than you do). In our first installment, we will tell you about performance anxiety and how you can turn the tides. In our second installment, we will explain why too much impulse control short-circuits your body’s natural arousal mechanisms and how to get back in touch with and follow your instincts. In our third piece we will talk about how your penis can sometimes be smarter than you and how to start listening and taking seriously what it says!

 

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    • Lavern Jeanjacques says:

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    • steve says:

      “I wanted to understand the physiology of the problem to effect changes” was/is the premise that led me to stumble onto your article. However, I see in your article you are working with the psychological side more so, and I understand that that side of the problem is real also, and requires attention and understanding for correction.

      I watched the short film with Celeste and Danielle talking about the Somatica method and was in total agreement of their premise that there is no reason for love making not to be mind blowing each and every time out if both partners are willing and open and sensitive to each others needs and desires. I enjoyed the sensuality from the aspect of thinking of how I so enjoy giving pleasure to my partner (wife of over 30 years), from the simple caress to…everything. I feel that taking the time to be sensitive to each other in love making is the key, and having the goal for something wonderful versus taking it all for granted.

      I would love for my wife to learn more about herself and perhaps why after 50 it seems to be completely unimportant to her now with no consideration for my desires or needs at all. There is a disconnect, and I have spent some years now, being very sensitive to the issue and very open to talk about where she’s at and when she’s spoken she’s said it’s just not important to her any more.

      So perhaps, I’m trying to ask can women have a type of ED where they just shut down completely? Is it physiological, psychological? Can it be either or both? I have to admit that with my problem now occurring I now feel like I’m missing a key component to work with in the matter of satisfying her (beyond orally or physically).

      I was stunned to go onto the American Heart Association to see that my ed can be a sign of heart disease. And since I have had a heart attack and am battling weight problems, I am really concerned that my problem is more in the purely physiological realm and I need to take direct action for the health of my life.

      However, I am concerned the onset of my ed problem may be physiologically caused as opposed to psychologically.

    • Celeste and Danielle says:

      In answer to your question, many women shut down to their sexuality at some point in their lives and some where never really open to it in the first place, just offering sex as a way to maintain relationship as opposed to ever exploring what is really in it for them. There are both physiological and psychological reasons why women shut themselves down around their sexuality. Physiologically, it may be that they are exhausted from lack of sleep or self-care or that they have a hormonal imbalance, however, we believe that, much more often, there are psychological factors at work. Because our culture does not celebrate women’s sexuality, women are told that sex is wrong, bad and not for them, and that they will be a slut if they really enjoy themselves, are overt about their desires and ask for what they want. This usually means that any sex they do have is not particularly satisfying and, eventually, the simply decide sex is not for them. One way that we work with women all the time is to help them find out more about their own needs and desires around sex so that sex can become something that they do for themselves and from which they can get deep enjoyment and satisfaction.