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PMS mood swings – what do you do with all the information these feelings offer us women during that time of the month? And how does it relate to pussy power?

Celeste & Danielle tell you all about it in the 3rd episode of their 9-video series on women’s empowerment.

 


(Below is the slightly edited video transcript)

The Core of PMS Mood Swings

Celeste:  So today we’re going to talk about PMS and how it relates to Pussy Power. Why?

Danielle: Because … Celeste is PMSing!

Celeste:  Totally PMSing! My brain is not working, and I’m grumbly and pissed off. I think in our society, we have this feeling like this (PMS) is something wrong with us that we’re supposed to hide. We’re supposed to pretend this doesn’t happen. But I think it’s part of our pussy power.

If we listen! And don’t ignore it, or don’t beat ourselves up for fact that we have emotions. Because women have emotions, men have emotions, everyone has emotions! I think one of the lucky things for women in general is that we are less oppressed and repressed around our emotions than men.

But the question is – how do we embrace our full emotional self at all times?

 

The Rollercoaster of PMS Emotions

Danielle:  Many times, women feel very rageful in their PMS, or sad, or confused. When I have my PMS, I have this special sentence that says “I have no friends”. That’s for me the key that I probably have PMS. I say it usually while talking on the phone with Celeste… “I have NO friends! It’s horrible!”

Celeste: And I’m feeling either like “I hate everyone” or “I love everyone.”

Danielle:  When I’m PSMing, everything goes out the window. We kinda become a different part of ourselves that we don’t know.

But if we embrace it, it can really help us see “What is the knowledge we get out of it?” And – how we can reconnect with this part instead of trying to reject it? Because it’s showing up anyway – so …

 

Sorting out Your Feelings

Celeste: It is good to sort it out. It is a part of ourselves.  We do get it every month – for 30 years. I think the sorting we need to do is … we need to say “Okay, whatever I’m feeling – emotionally – it’s exaggerated at this time of the month.” But that doesn’t mean it’s not real.

It might be leading us to a sense of “What is it that we really need? And what needs to change in our life?” So I think it’s so serious. But we also don’t have to manage it.

Danielle: And it’s ok if you sometimes in the month feel like, “oh, I have no friends.” Call your friends! Make sure you have them.

Sometimes it’s just a call for action to find that people love you. You always need more love in your life. You need more reassurance, you need more care.

Celeste: And usually when I am on my period, or when I’m PMSing, instead of saying to them “I need more care” or “I need someone to hold me (while I cry for seemingly no reason), we say “You’ve done all those horrible things to me. How could you?”

And then the people who we need the most are feeling pushed away. They’re terrified, in the corner of the house, shaking, saying “Maybe it’ll be over soon.”

 

How Do We Honor Our PMS Mood Swings?

Celeste:  So if we honor our period, we can instead think: “Okay, how do I become most empowered in this time of the month?” (As opposed to just letting it take over, and getting upset with everyone else.)

We should think, “What am I probably gonna need at this time?” Not – “Maybe it’s never gonna happen again.”

It can be helpful to even just write down a list – to know what you need when you’re in that phase of your month. Also, it takes a village to take care of any human being. So think about who can you call in your village to help take care of you at that moment.

Whether you need cuddles, or need to be able to cry for no reason. Also, there’s so much shame around just crying for “no reason”. Maybe the reason we cry at that time is because it’s healthy to move emotions through our body. We need a time of release.

Because if we don’t feel and move the emotions through our bodies, we disconnect from our pussy. It can get in the way of our pussy power. And nothing must get in the way of our pussy power!

 

In the next video, we’re gonna talk to you about how to stay connected with your pussy power – before your period, while you’re in PMS, or in different times of the month.

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The quickest path to awaken your sexual power starts with some sexy breathing exercises. They will help connect you to your body, and make you feel alive and ready for pleasure.

Let sex coaches Celeste & Danielle guide you in learning how to breathe and tap into your sexual energy with the 2nd Episode in their 9-video series on female and sexual empowerment. 

 

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Why Focused, Sexy Breathing is so Powerful

Celeste: Now it’s time to talk about pussy (sexual) power – and how to get there. And the quickest road to pussy power is breath.

We always say “Pussy is the oracle”. She tells us everything we want in our lives. In order to get in touch with your oracle, you have to breathe all the way down.

Breath helps me in every moment of my life. Mostly because I have anxiety sometimes. And sometimes I just feel a little discombobulated. I want to always come back to myself, and to my inner knowledge, my pussy power, and taking a few deep breaths.

It’s not like you have to spend hours meditating. I don’t like to bring a bunch of guilt into all of this. You can breathe with your pussy when you’re driving in the car. And suddenly it’s like “oh yeah, I remember who I am. I remember what I want.”

 

How to Use Breath to Tap Into Your Sexual Power – An Exercise

Danielle:  And I like to breathe because it’s essential – but I really love to breathe because it helps me center myself and connect.

I’m gonna invite you to close your eyes. Start breathing through your mouth. Take a breath into your chest. And the next breath into your stomach. You can also put your hand on your belly to feel your breath.

And with the next breath – bring it all the way down to your pelvic floor. Let yourself feel your pelvic floor. Stretch when you inhale, and relax back when you exhale.

With the next breath, imagine the breath like an inner masseuse, sliding in and really like helping you have more room in your body.

Then bring the breath all the way down to your pelvic floor again. When it hits your pelvic floor, give it a nice little squeeze. Then push the breath back up. So inhale and squeeze your pelvic floor – as if you tried to stop yourself from peeing. Inhale. Squeeze. Exhale.

Let’s take a few deeper breaths, and maybe even faster. Inhale – squeeze – and exhale. And then squeeze and hold everything. And when you can’t hold anymore, just let go.

Lastly – stay in your body and feel the sensations.

 

The Feeling of Pussy Power

Danielle: You might not be feeling anything, if that’s the first time that you are doing it, and that’s totally fine. You might feel a beginning of warmth in your pussy, in your belly, in your chest.

Celeste:  I generally feel so much energy flushing through my body. Suddenly my brain works better, and I feel like I can take on the world right now.

Danielle:  The world is brighter. The flowers are more beautiful.

Celeste: It’s part of women’s erotic empowerment to really feel connected to your pussy.

 

In our next video, we’re gonna talk about PMS, and how it relates to pussy power. Stay tuned!

Meanwhile though – don’t miss any another episode by subscribing to our YouTube Channel!

Women have long been robbed of their erotic power. But can reclaiming your sexual empowerment help you in daily life?

To address this and other women’s issues, we made a 9-video series, talking about everything from erotic empowerment, PMS, and foreplay tips, to how to have the best orgasms and do anal pleasure right.

In this first video, we teach how to connect to your body and harness your sexual energy to feel strong, empowered, and get what you want – in life, in bed, and at work.

 

 

(Below is the slightly edited video transcript)

 

Why Women are Not Sexually Empowered

Celeste: To be a successful woman in the world, you have to be erotically empowered.

I want to start out by saying that women have been robbed of their sexual power in the world. We have been told that sex is dangerous, that there’s something wrong with us if we want sex. We have been slut shamed left and right when we do show ourselves as sexual beings. And that takes away our power in every area of our lives.

If you want to be a successful career woman, if you want to be a successful mother, if you want to be a great friend, and especially if you want to be an amazing lover and partner – you have to find this part of yourself.

 

Danielle: You might sound completely unheard, or weird, or think … how are these two things are related to each other. How come your empowerment in the world is related to your sexual empowerment?

The truth is that everything – your knowledge, your intuition, your ability to find what you want – is settled in your pelvis and in your gut. And if we are walking in the world, just thinking and saying “oh I think I want that”, we don’t have anything to ground it or to base it off.

 

What is Erotic Empowerment?

Celeste: So – what is women’s erotic empowerment?

I think you were making a really good point. You have to be in your body in order to be erotically empowered. You have to feel your desire on a deep embodied level.

But also I think it really means knowing what you want as a woman. And not just in general, in the world, or in your career. But knowing what you want sexually, as a woman. And being completely unashamed about it. Also being willing to go out and get it for yourself. Not just wait for it to come to you.

Because that’s what we’re taught. We’re thinking: “You know, maybe, some man out there is going to teach us about our sexuality. Or maybe some woman is going to come out and teach us about our sexuality.” But it’s never like: “I’m gonna figure out who I am in this realm, and what I want.”

 

How to Connect to your Sexual Power

Danielle: I don’t think it’s very obvious for people – how sexuality is the thing that makes them empowered. For women, I think it’s a missing link there.

They look at sex as such a compartment in their life. These are things that you do in the bedroom. With one person, who is the love of your life. And women are not taught to feel: “Oh, this is the thing that wakes me up in the morning. And this is the thing that puts a stride in my walk because I feel my pelvis, and I feel my sexual energy.

I think this link is really important to make. Because when you know what you want sexually, and you feel that that is your right, and it’s something that feels good and feeds you, and you feel like “Mmmm I want that” – then you feel comfortable asking for what you want.

Feeling along the ripples of pleasure in your body, you start to walk differently in the world, feel your selfness. You walk around and you feel your hips moving. You feel like your sexual energy is spreading throughout and coursing through your body. And then everything starts to feel brighter. You see the sunshine, you see leaves, you see people, you see children. You feel feelings. It’s worth trying.

 

The Benefits of Sexual Empowerment

Celeste: And you feel connected, right? You feel connected to yourself. And that helps you connect to all of the people that you love in the world.

I know we think of sex as this taboo thing that’s supposed to be separate. It’s kind of cast aside in our society. But it’s also part of our aliveness. It’s not just what we do in the bedroom. It’s who we are as beings. And when we’re strutting around in energy, and going after what we want, I think people really feel it. And they respect us more as humans when they don’t see us hiding our desire, or hiding who we are in that realm.

Now that you realize why it’s worth your time to be erotically empowered, we’re going to teach you how to get into your pussy power!

 

Join us soon for Episode 2 of the series: How to Awaken Your Sexual Power as a Woman.

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The other day, I called Kaiser to talk about vagina care.

I can feel some slight changes, including vaginal dryness and pain after intercourse. My vagina has served me very well thus far and I plan to continue our wonderful relationship. We both deserve heaps of TLC, so I wanted to find out about what my vagina care options were to make sure she stays supple and ready for action!

 

Coconut Oil for Vaginal Dryness

Here’s what Kaiser had to say about HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) as vaginal dryness treatment:

— They recently did a study comparing HRT cream to coconut oil.  The latter would get applied once or twice a day as natural hormone replacement therapy for vaginal dryness. They found that coconut oil worked just as well as HRT cream as a female dryness cure, solving the problems that happen as we age.

— In case coconut oil for vaginal dryness doesn’t work or is not an option for you because of allergies, they are currently doing a cancer study on an HRT ring that offers an even lower dose of hormones than the cream. Keep your eye out for the results!

— Any kind of hormone replacement therapy increases your chance of breast cancer, but pills are by far the worst.

 

Coconut Oil as Lube

We also talked about coconut oil as a viable substitute for lube.

Kaiser recommended applying it inside of the vagina at least a half hour before intercourse. This seemed like too little time for absorption to me. To be safe, I plan to try this vaginal dryness treatment a few hours before having sex. They also cautioned that you cannot use coconut oil as lube if you are using it with condoms.

If you’re allergic to coconut, they suggested going with an established lube, but certain lubes are much better for happy vaginas than others. Some lubes cause pH imbalances and kill the healthy bacteria in your vagina, so they advocated for the following lubes:

Good Clean Love: Almost Naked Personal Lubricant

Slippery Stuff Gel

Sliquid: Organics Natural

Sliquid: H2O

They said to avoid lubes that contain chlorhexidine gluconate or polyquaternium.

 

General Vagina Care

They also sent a list of other hot tips about vagina care in general:

— Avoid all soap. Only wash with warm water and gently pat dry.

— Do not douche.

— Do not use baby wipes nor wet wipes on the vulva.

— Wear all cotton underwear. Try to avoid synthetic and silk underwear.

— Wash your underwear separately with a mild fragrance-free detergent. Use the extra rinse cycle and do not use fabric softener or dryer sheets.

— Do not use any topical products containing benzocaine (such as Vagisil).

— Only use feminine hygiene products (menstrual pads, tampons) when you are menstruating. Avoid daily use of these products. If possible, try to use organic, chemical-free feminine hygiene products. Some women even find these products irritating. If that is the case consider using all cotton menstrual pads.

— Do not use any feminine hygiene sprays nor deodorants.

— Do not use baby powder or talcum powder.

— After exercising or swimming, change out of your wet clothes to limit your exposure to excess moisture and heat.

 

Thanks, Kaiser! I appreciate that you did not push pills but instead gave the alternative, food-based option of coconut oil for vaginal health. I’m so glad you are doing research on how to take care of our vaginas and stay cancer free…

I thank you, my vagina thanks you, and I KNOW my lovers will thank you too!

Love,

Celeste

In an ideal world, Mother’s Day would be a time for moms to sit back, relax, and get their needs met – without having to run the show. But, what actually happens more often than not is that mothers have to plan their own festivities. And then they also have to act delighted and surprised when they receive the card they bought, or the “priceless” piece of Crayola artwork. So if you want to pamper her for this Mother’s Day – why not try an experience gift for mom? Here are some ideas:

How Can I Make My Wife Feel Special on Mother’s Day?

A lot of men ask us, “How can I make my wife feel special on Mother’s Day?” If you’re someone who is romantically partnered with a mom, you may not be able to step up the children’s gift game, but you can still make the effort to find out what she really wants… from her.

Let us spell it out: we are not talking about material gifts (although go ahead and do that, too). We mean you can use this day as a reminder to give her the exact brand of sex, romance, or physical attention she really wants from you. And, if you don’t know what she really likes – or you need a refresher – finding it out would be a great gift in and of itself.  

 

Meaningful Mother’s Day Gifts

Helping couples communicate about this is our specialty, so feel free to reach out if this sounds overwhelming. But there are still plenty of ways to give wonderful (and free) tokens of your love and appreciation to mom that can signify an immensely meaningful Mother’s Day gift.

Here are a few tips that can help you turn this Mother’s Day into a less material affair, and more of a memorable experience gift for mom. We’ve even made them into a simple little song…

 

This Mother’s Day – Stop, Look, and Listen

  1. Stop – Moms never get to stop. Even an official day of celebration for them can feel like a chore she needs to plan and may feel pressured to enjoy. So why not start by clearing the social calendar – make some time to be together without kids, without devices, and without any agenda.  Give her a chance to stop, and just relax. This may not be easy for either of you, and it will definitely take some work on your part to clear away those pesky to-do’s – but the resulting connection is guaranteed to make it worthwhile for the both of you.
  2. Look – Take a real look at this woman. Not for all she does – there is no way to show that full gratitude – but for who she is. Take her in. Find a specific part of her that you have not given enough attention to. Spend some time counting her beauty marks or freckles, or how many kisses it takes to get from one spot to another. Take a good look at her and let her feel it.
  3. Listen – You know what is crazy sexy to moms? Someone actually paying attention to them (sad, we know). But this tends to be a rare occurrence. Feeling heard is very sexy for many reasons. Leaning in and really listening might be one of the most important skills a lover can have – so this is possibly the  most meaningful experience gift for mom there is!

Love is an experience gift for mom