What are Core Desires? Put simply: a Core Desire is what someone wants to feel during sex.
Our articles here will help you discover how you can find your Core Desires, and why they are so important to your sex and relationship life.
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We live in an era of peak attachment awareness. In my sex coaching practice, I found people can name their patterns, recognize their triggers, and explain their childhood dynamics with impressive clarity. Yet conversations about attachment styles and sex remain curiously underdeveloped. Often, sex is treated as a separate domain – as if emotional bonding…
You feel a rush of recognition when you discover your attachment style. Finally, there’s an explanation! But after the relief wears off, you are left with the same question: why do I still keep doing this? Answer: Your attachment style is only one aspect of what is getting in the way of intimacy. There is…
Georgio came in feeling confused by the intensity of his desires. On the surface, what he wanted in intimacy didn’t make any logical sense. He found himself longing to be deeply chosen, wanted, and entirely enveloped by someone’s attention. Yet he did not fully understand why those experiences carried so much charge for him. If…
A Core Strategy, sometimes called a Core Protective Strategy, is the main way you protect yourself when love, intimacy, or vulnerability start to feel risky. A Simple Definition of a Protective Strategy In plain language, a protective strategy is an adaptation to a flawed world, where we need to be able to continue to function…
What if the way you love is being shaped by a wound you do not even realize you are carrying? Maybe you are the one who gives more, tries harder, stays later, and senses what everyone needs before they say a word. Maybe you have spent so long being capable, thoughtful, and dependable that few…
Ever wondered why your sex life feels like a “to-do” list rather than a source of deep fulfillment? The secret lies in moving beyond physical acts to discover your Core Desires — the specific emotional states your body and soul are actually craving. This article guides you through a powerful, somatic-based core desire visualization, designed…
Core Desires are the feelings you want to experience during intimacy. Talking about feelings – not just acts – with your partner lowers shame and raises compatibility because you stop guessing and start naming what your body is asking for. A Core Desires conversation is about getting to know each other. Treat it like curiosity…
Core Desires are the feelings you most want to experience during sex. If you have ever said “I want more passion” or “I just want to feel wanted,” you are already talking about core desired feelings. This post gives you a giant, no shame core desired feelings list so you can stop guessing and start…
Core Desires are the feelings you want to experience during sex and intimacy. Naming and sharing Core Desires increases clarity, safety, and pleasure, because you stop guessing and start speaking the language your body actually responds to. Most people think “what turns me on” is a question about acts – a position, kink, type, or even…
Why do so many of us feel disconnected from desire, even when we deeply crave connection? In Episode 1 of the Virgin Island show on Channel 4, we took an exciting first step toward understanding desire. As each member of the group began to explore showing desire and uncovering their fantasies, blocks to desire started…
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