These days, finding balance between work and partnership is the tip of the iceberg, there are also friends, family (kids if you have them), personal errand and responsibilities, etc. Being over-busy is the scourge of our time, and relationships, and especially relaxed, spacious time to savor intimacy, connection and sex seems to be the biggest loser across the board. We find that many people (especially with our protestant work ethic), think of pleasure as something extraneous that rarely makes the to-do list or the calendar.
We believe that, even if you love your work, taking downtime, and sharing intimacy and sex (and all the lovely hormones that are released when we do so), is essential to our overall health and well-being, as well as the health of our relationships. Much research is now showing that stress is the root of our body losing it’s ability to do the things it needs to in order to maintain our health and is thus the root cause of many of the illnesses we face. Relaxed connection, savoring, loving and sensual touch – all of these are the prevention and essential to the cure! We wish, instead of work ethic, we had an ethic of pleasure in this culture, where everyone was encouraged to create as much pleasure and joy in their lives and in the lives of others as possible. It would be a better world, full of healthier, happier people and relationships. Here’s a tip – put pleasure at the top of your to do list and set aside at least one hour a day for things that make you feel relaxed, happy and connected!