"It was a profound and powerful experience; I heard the sounds of thousands of years of women experiencing sexual pleasure; like the mantras of our very core. I felt my femaleness and its energy like I have never felt before."
Sex and Relationship Coaching
We can help you have it all – open, communicative and balanced relationships in combination with passionate, fulfilling sexual connections. So often we see women settling and shutting down or men going through their “mid-life crises,” because there is no room in the relationship for growth, change and an ongoing exploration of the mysteries of sex and love.
In our Sex Therapy and Relationship Coaching practice we see couples who are deeply entrenched in their Relationship Vortex: where they are constantly, but unconsciously, stepping on each others’ deepest wounds. We help them resolve the vortex and increase intimacy so they can have a strong relationship foundation. In addition, we work with couples who have different desires, who are experiencing sexless marriages, or who want to find new and exciting ways to enhance their sex lives. You can start your journey now!
Create a Strong Relationship Foundation
Take a moment and let yourself connect with how you want to feel in your relationship. Feel the desire to be loved, appreciated, accepted, desired, supported, sexually satisfied, received, safe, choiceful, valued, seen and celebrated. While we are told constantly by fairy tales, Hollywood and porn, that these things are just supposed to come to us because we fall in love, the truth is relationships require conscious attention and nurturing.
Our experiential, empathy-based, and body-based sex and relationship coaching help couples attend to their relationship in a way that increases intimacy, communication, desire and pleasure. When it comes to the relationship vortex, we help you see ways that you are subtly blaming and shaming yourself and/or your partner and to change these negative habits, so you can experience the growth and healing that a relationship has the potential to provide. We help you use the difficult times in your relationship to build more intimacy instead of eroding it. If you are both committed and learn to use all of your resources, you would be amazed at what is possible!
Bridge Differing Desires
Oftentimes, when two people first make a commitment to each other, they are in the midst of the honeymoon period, where both people feel that the other wants everything they want and has everything they need. As they learn more about each other, they find that there are differences in desires, both inside and outside of the bedroom. These can be as simple as what kind of movies they want to watch and as complex as one partner wanting monogamy and the other wanting an open relationship. There is often also a mismatch in people’s Hottest Sexual Movie. Whether they are simple or complex, if unaddressed, they can have very dire consequences for the relationship. In Somatica coaching sessions, we focus on acceptance and empathy to help couples negotiate through these differing desires so that each partner can be heard and fully received. You can begin to create an agreement that works for both of you and the relationship right now.
Revitalize Your Sexless (or low-sex) Marriage or Relationship
In long-term relationships, sex can end up on the back burner, behind work, children and the daily chores of living so that a couple ends up having very little sex. In some relationships, couples stop having sex altogether. Unless both partners are completely happy with this arrangement, sexless or low-sex marriages can lead to deep resentment, distance, cheating, and even break-ups and divorce. While good communication or therapy can often help resolve relationship issues, these are usually not enough to get couples to feel desire for one another again or to come up with creative solutions to their sexless relationship. Our experiential Somatica method of sex and relationship coaching helps you find out about each others Hottest Sexual Movie in a safe space where you can teach one another what you need while respecting each other’s desires and boundaries. We help you understand that good sex requires more than just good communication – it requires creativity, bravery and playfulness to create a relationship where seduction, passion and desire can grow and thrive. Start this passionate journey now!
Recover from an Affair
Secret affairs can be extremely painful because your partner, in whom you’ve invested so much trust, has lied to you and broken an agreement. At the same time, if you want to recover from an affair, it will not help to think of one of you as the helpless victim and the other as the evil perpetrator. Once an affair has been discovered or confessed, you will both need to decide if you want to face the process of looking at the issues in the relationship (and the affair as a symptom of these issues) rather than labeling the person who had the affair the cause of the problem. If you decide you want to face it together, learn more about how Sex and Relationship Coaching can help you recover from an affair.
In couple’s sex therapy and relationship coaching sessions:
Take your relationship to a level of communication, love and connection you never thought possible. In sessions, we will begin with where you are in your relationship making sure there is connection, empathy and acceptance and moving to creating the most fulfilling sexual connection between the two of you.
- Heal from past hurts and resentments
- Communicate in a way that restore intimacy and invites deeper love
- Share your most vulnerable desires without pressure or judgment
- Bridge different types or amounts of desire
- Overcome lifelong intimacy blocks that get in the way of connection
- Learn how to give each other your Hottest Sexual Movie
- Explore new ways to feel the spark between you light up
What to Do Next:
"Experiential work is the best I've found and both Celeste & Danielle have an open and compassionate style where everyone feels held."
2013 Somatica training
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