Are You In A Sexless Marriage?

sexless marriageIn long-term relationships, sex can often end up on the back burner – behind work, children and the daily chores of living. Sometimes, a couple ends up having very little sex. In some relationships, couples stop having sex altogether. Unless both partners are completely happy with this arrangement, a low sex or sexless marriage can lead to deep resentment, distance, cheating, and even break-ups and divorce.

While good communication can often help resolve relationship issues, these are usually not enough to get couples to feel desire for one another again. Or to come up with creative solutions to their sexless relationship. Our experiential Somatica Method puts you in a safe space where you can teach one another what you need, while respecting each other’s desires and boundaries. We help you understand that good sex requires more than just good communication – it requires creativity, bravery and playfulness to create a relationship where seduction, passion and desire can grow and thrive.

How To Revitalize Your Low Sex or Sexless Marriage

We saw this Elle Magazine article on sexless marriage, and felt we wanted to put some context to it. In our practice, we see sexless marriages or marriages in which one person has a much higher drive than the other quite often (and it’s not always men who have the higher drive). While it is true there is small minority of couples who have found happiness in a sexless marriage, more often than not, either one of them or both are not content with the arrangement. The Elle article talks about the causes and question of contentment within a sexual marriage – but it doesn’t talk about effective ways out, if the couple isn’t happy with it. What we have found is that most couples don’t realize that keeping sex alive means being proactive, communicative, and open to change and novelty.

low sex marriage

We recently saw a couple in a sexless marriage who complained “we went to other sex therapists who gave us homework that we never did and then we just ended up quitting.” Just talking has very little effect on people’s sexual connection. To help this couple (and many others) find the spark again, we worked experientially, with everything from kissing practice to communicating about their deepest fantasies. Communicating, however, wasn’t enough. We had them practice with touch, tone of voice, what each person wanted to hear, and how to pump up intensity.

 

If you want to make your sex life last a lifetime, you can’t just shoot for “good enough” – you have to shoot for the moon, and create an atmosphere where there can be ongoing playfulness, passion and creativity.

We can teach you how. Start your passionate journey now!

Read our articles on revitalizing a sexless marriage.

Featured on

The Kids Are Alright: Five Reason Our Sexuality Is Better Than Past Generations

We are hoping twenty-somethings haven’t faced the same kind of sexual double standards (which harm both men’s and women’s sexual self-expression) that most of us faced growing up and that they have a chance to explore more openly with less guilt and shame.

Forget Everything You Think You Know about Perfect Sex

Unless you live under a rock (with no cave drawings in sight), chances are you are constantly bombarded with images…

An Introduction to Outsourcing (Not the Donald Trump Kind)

Whether you acknowledge it or not, some desires get met in your primary relationship, and some desires you outsource. We…

The 3 Secrets of Being a Successful Flirt

We are about to share with you some of our most advanced flirting techniques – flirting tools that will help…

Question from a Reader: Orgasm During Intercourse

Hello Celeste and Danielle, At the risk of being too blunt, I’ll come right out and tell you that I…

The Open Relationship Toolkit: 6 Keys To Success in Honest Outsourcing

To begin honest outsourcing takes an acknowledgment that no one person, or relationship, can ever fulfill all of our desires…

How Tapping Into Grief Can Improve Your Sex Life

How Tapping Into Grief Can Improve Your Sex Life was last modified: September 14th, 2019 by Guest Writer

Relationship Success – What Really Counts

Sometimes the Onion – through parody and humor – brings up topics that most news outlets are afraid to touch….

The Relationship Secret You Shouldn’t Ignore: Everything’s Negotiable

No two relationships are exactly alike, yet we often make assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. There is…

Privacy Preferences
When you visit our website, it may store information through your browser from specific services, usually in form of cookies. Here you can change your privacy preferences. Please note that blocking some types of cookies may impact your experience on our website and the services we offer.