Are You In A Sexless Marriage?

sexless marriageIn long-term relationships, sex can often end up on the back burner – behind work, children and the daily chores of living. Sometimes, a couple ends up having very little sex. In some relationships, couples stop having sex altogether. Unless both partners are completely happy with this arrangement, a low sex or sexless marriage can lead to deep resentment, distance, cheating, and even break-ups and divorce.

While good communication can often help resolve relationship issues, these are usually not enough to get couples to feel desire for one another again. Or to come up with creative solutions to their sexless relationship. Our experiential Somatica Method puts you in a safe space where you can teach one another what you need, while respecting each other’s desires and boundaries. We help you understand that good sex requires more than just good communication – it requires creativity, bravery and playfulness to create a relationship where seduction, passion and desire can grow and thrive.

 

How To Revitalize Your Low Sex or Sexless Marriage

We saw this Elle Magazine article on sexless marriage, and felt we wanted to put some context to it. In our practice, we see sexless marriages or marriages in which one person has a much higher drive than the other quite often (and it’s not always men who have the higher drive). While it is true there is small minority of couples who have found happiness in a sexless marriage, more often than not, either one of them or both are not content with the arrangement. The Elle article talks about the causes and question of contentment within a sexual marriage – but it doesn’t talk about effective ways out, if the couple isn’t happy with it. What we have found is that most couples don’t realize that keeping sex alive means being proactive, communicative, and open to change and novelty.

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We recently saw a couple in a sexless marriage who complained “we went to other sex therapists who gave us homework that we never did and then we just ended up quitting.” Just talking has very little effect on people’s sexual connection. To help this couple (and many others) find the spark again, we worked experientially, with everything from kissing practice to communicating about their deepest fantasies. Communicating, however, wasn’t enough. We had them practice with touch, tone of voice, what each person wanted to hear, and how to pump up intensity.

 

If you want to make your sex life last a lifetime, you can’t just shoot for “good enough” – you have to shoot for the moon, and create an atmosphere where there can be ongoing playfulness, passion and creativity.

We can teach you how. Start your passionate journey now!

Read our articles on revitalizing a sexless marriage.

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