Are You In A Sexless Marriage?

sexless marriageIn long-term relationships, sex can often end up on the back burner – behind work, children and the daily chores of living. Sometimes, a couple ends up having very little sex. In some relationships, couples stop having sex altogether. Unless both partners are completely happy with this arrangement, a low sex or sexless marriage can lead to deep resentment, distance, cheating, and even break-ups and divorce.

While good communication can often help resolve relationship issues, these are usually not enough to get couples to feel desire for one another again. Or to come up with creative solutions to their sexless relationship. Our experiential Somatica Method puts you in a safe space where you can teach one another what you need, while respecting each other’s desires and boundaries. We help you understand that good sex requires more than just good communication – it requires creativity, bravery and playfulness to create a relationship where seduction, passion and desire can grow and thrive.

 

How To Revitalize Your Low Sex or Sexless Marriage

We saw this Elle Magazine article on sexless marriage, and felt we wanted to put some context to it. In our practice, we see sexless marriages or marriages in which one person has a much higher drive than the other quite often (and it’s not always men who have the higher drive). While it is true there is small minority of couples who have found happiness in a sexless marriage, more often than not, either one of them or both are not content with the arrangement. The Elle article talks about the causes and question of contentment within a sexual marriage – but it doesn’t talk about effective ways out, if the couple isn’t happy with it. What we have found is that most couples don’t realize that keeping sex alive means being proactive, communicative, and open to change and novelty.

low sex marriage

We recently saw a couple in a sexless marriage who complained “we went to other sex therapists who gave us homework that we never did and then we just ended up quitting.” Just talking has very little effect on people’s sexual connection. To help this couple (and many others) find the spark again, we worked experientially, with everything from kissing practice to communicating about their deepest fantasies. Communicating, however, wasn’t enough. We had them practice with touch, tone of voice, what each person wanted to hear, and how to pump up intensity.

 

If you want to make your sex life last a lifetime, you can’t just shoot for “good enough” – you have to shoot for the moon, and create an atmosphere where there can be ongoing playfulness, passion and creativity.

We can teach you how. Start your passionate journey now!

Read our articles on revitalizing a sexless marriage.

Featured on

Chances are Your Partner is Attracted to Other People

Not everyone is attracted to people other than their partner, but it is normal and common when people are. The…

Imagine a World…

Just for a moment, close your eyes and imagine a world where the erotic is celebrated, a world in which…

Making time for a sex date

Sometimes when we suggest that people make a sex date with themselves or their sweethearts, they say, “but that sounds…

The Magic Moment of Connection

When people look to the experts for sex advice, they often imagine they are going to get a list of…

The Kids Are Alright: Five Reason Our Sexuality Is Better Than Past Generations

We are hoping twenty-somethings haven’t faced the same kind of sexual double standards (which harm both men’s and women’s sexual self-expression) that most of us faced growing up and that they have a chance to explore more openly with less guilt and shame.

The Relationship Secret You Shouldn’t Ignore: Everything’s Negotiable

No two relationships are exactly alike, yet we often make assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. There is…

You Gotta Have Some Low G Rendezvous

“We are seriously out of practice,” Callie said after plopping down next to her boyfriend Holden. It was a bit…

Where Does Privacy End And Secrecy Begin In Relationships?

Protecting your partner from something potentially damaging or hurtful sends a powerful message to your partner that you don’t trust them.

F#ck You, Low Libido – Part 3

This is the season to connect with loved ones and that’s just what Celeste and Danielle’s client and her husband…

Privacy Preferences
When you visit our website, it may store information through your browser from specific services, usually in form of cookies. Here you can change your privacy preferences. Please note that blocking some types of cookies may impact your experience on our website and the services we offer.