LGBTQ Therapy For Gay, Queer & Bisexual Men

Gay, Queer, and Bisexual MenSan Francisco and the Greater Bay area have fostered one of the strongest and most supportive communities for gay, queer and bisexual men in the country. Yet there can still be many challenges from family and community, and particularly around sex and relationships. We are here to help you with LGBTQ affirmative therapy.

As a man who identifies himself as gay, bi, queer or simply questions being heterosexual in a homophobic society, finding yourself means finding freedom from the rules and judgments of the larger society. It also means obtaining the personal freedom to choose your desires in the face of the expectations of the smaller subcultures in which you live.

In Somatica Sex Therapy and Relationship Coaching Sessions, you will take a journey into the deepest parts of your sexual and relationship desires and you will learn how to find the freedom to enjoy every sip of the sex life and relationships you consciously create.

 

“I have tasted freedom. I will not give up that which I have tasted. I have a lot more to drink.”

– Harvey Milk

Questioning

One of the key beliefs of Somatica’s approach to sexuality is fluidity. Do we simply fit into some predefined box of sexuality that comes with predetermined desires, roles and mannerisms or is sexuality something that connects us to our deep and differing desires and reveals itself as a very individual expression of how we each interact with ourselves, our lives and the people around us? In a session with a Somatica practitioner, you can explore what it may feel like to have another man receive your desire and to receive the desire of another man in a safe and contained environment that is accepting of and caring for whatever may arise within you. It is an opportunity to explore where your desires truly lie without shame.

Expanded Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy

In one-on-one sex therapy and relationship coaching sessions, you can take a journey into your internal world of pleasure and self-awareness and find out what your potential is. You can explore and expand your masturbation practices, find expanded pleasures and learn how you like to touch and be touched. You can also explore the ways that sex and intimacy are sometimes connected and sometimes different. You can learn to take your time and savor experiences of erotic and emotional connection.

Fantasy Play and Porn

In addition to the sensual and intimate pleasures in life, another pathway to pleasure is through fantasy, both those we have in our minds and those we play out with partners. You may be very aware of your fantasies and very comfortable with them, or you may have feelings of uncertainty about your fantasies and desires. You may also have a desire to clarify your relationship to pornography and to take charge of what role you want porn to play in your personal and sexual life. By talking about your fantasies and your experiences with porn and by taking the time to explore slow, conscious practice role-plays, you can release any shame or judgment you may have so that you can discover the pathway to your core erotic desires and have the hottest most exciting sex possible.

Negotiating the Relationships You Want

As a gay, queer or bi man, defining your sexual relationships and finding freedom takes a lot of self-awareness and communication if you want to get what you really want out of all of your intimate relationships and even your friendships. When you are forging your own path and creating new definitions of relationship and community, there can be confusion and misunderstandings with partners. Connections between men can also be very focused on sex (not always good sex!) and can bypass intimacy or relationship-building. Sex, by itself, does not provide the intimacy that many men crave. In sessions, we will help you honestly clarify and negotiate what you really want. You can come in as an individual or with a partner. If you come with a partner, we help you communicate through difficult topics and build long-term communication strategies with your partner so that your relationship will become more loving and connected and stay that way. We also offer body-based sessions for couples where you learn to give and receive arousing touch, communicate your physical desires, and have and give incredible pleasure and orgasms.

What to Expect

In your coaching sessions you will find out what holds you back and gain the practical tools to get exactly what you want through:

  • Experiential learning – we believe your body is a place to start, and we invite you into it, away from the noise and distractions into a grounded, embodied presence so that you can practice new skills around sex and intimacy.
  • Real-time feedback – you only improve if you are given honest, straightforward feedback about how you come across as well as tools for improvement.
  • Identification and transformation of unhelpful habits – humans are very habitual, we will help you find freedom from your habits so you can get the results you want.
  • A creative and open-minded approach to relationship structures.

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