There are many plusses and minuses to porn, and it would take much longer than a short blog to discuss all of them so, in the interest of time, we want to start out by saying that porn can be a wonderful addition to a person’s or a couple’s sexual life. Many folks have talked about the downsides of porn, but mostly in terms of its social implications (i.e. they question whether or not it is harmful to women, etc.). As sex therapists, one of the biggest problems we see with porn however, has to do with a reduction in sensation.
We often work with men who are in the process of dating women as a part of their search to find a fulfilling relationship. What we’ve found has been eye-opening. Many men, when approaching a first meeting with a woman call it a “date”, worry about how they should act, whether or not the woman is interested, how they are coming across, and what they are supposed to do at every turn. In short, they spend most of their time before, during and after the date worrying.