Celeste & Danielle Offer Sex and Relationship Coaching for a Passionate, Connected and Fulfilling Life

How to Avoid Cheating

Cheating doesn’t just happen. When people make a commitment to their partner, they usually plan to keep it and if they choose to cheat or have an affair there is a reason behind their choice. To understand why people cheat read our blog.

If you are determined not to cheat you came to the right place. To avoid a situation where one of you is choosing to have an affair instead of being honest about your needs and desires you will ultimately need to create a safe space where each person’s desires can be shared openly. Every couple has some sort of spoken or unspoken relationship contract. Many couples do not do a good job of communicating their contract so they are not aware of each other’s expectations in the relationship. Even if you are aware of the expectations you each have, we find that many couples don’t open their relationship contract and don’t update it. Instead of looking at your marriage or relationship contract as a fixed entity, you will need to accept that your needs and desires will change throughout your lives and that you will need to develop tools to renegotiate if some agreement you have made isn’t working. If you are in a long term relationship and you have never talked about your unspoken contract working with a Somatica Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach is a great opportunity to do so.

In Somatica sex therapy, sex coaching and relationship coaching sessions you and your partner will have a supportive, non-judgmental and caring conversation about each of yours needs and desires. You will explore how each of you feel about these desires and learn how to negotiate when your desires are different. In session, you will talk about your unspoken relationship contract and see what is working for you and what isn’t. Then you will have an opportunity to consciously co-create a relationship contract that is responsive to each of your needs and boundaries. You will explore what your relationship is capable of giving you and talk openly about what to do if there are needs that are not being met in the relationship.

 

"I want you to know how much change I feel that my wife and I are experiencing as a result of our sessions with you. I am not thinking only, or even primarily, about the work we are doing that relates directly to our lovemaking. I feel that we having an increased intimacy, an increased clarity, an increased understanding that flows from the time we are spending with you. We invariably comment to each other after we leave you how perceptive you are, how well you know us, how well you "get" us, how good you are at gently but firmly helping us to open up, push our boundaries a bit, try new things. And it is working.
Thank you so much for everything you are giving to us and sharing with us.
With love, respect and admiration.”

Client
San Francisco, CA

To avoid an affair:Start your transformation now!

  1. Book your Sex and Relationship Coaching session
  2. Read Cockfidence and have a desire conversation
  3. Read our blogs on affairs

 

How to Avoid Cheating

Featured on:

Related articles

  • If They Loved Me, They Would Know What I Want

    Even if you are dating a professional psychic, they will not be able to predict all of your sexual and emotional needs, especially as they shift and change over time. The idea that “If they loved me, they would know what I want” is one of the most harmful

  • Become Comfortable with Nudity Through Foreplay

    As Somatica practitioners, we applaud this note on how foreplay, touch and nudity all tie into body image and great sex.

  • Coming Out to Your Partner About Your Unconventional Desires

    In an earlier blog we talked about why it’s important to talk with your partner very specifically about your sexual desires. We can’t emphasize enough how essential talking about sex is if you want your sex life to last and be fulfilling. Yet, because of our society’s general

  • The Relationship Vortex

    You want your relationship to be great and yet, for reasons you cannot figure out, you end up in the same conversation or with the same fights over and over again. We call this The Relationship Vortex – it is the place where your deepest hurts touch your partners

  • Forget Everything You Think You Know about Perfect Sex

    Unless you live under a rock (with no cave drawings in sight), chances are you are constantly bombarded with images of perfect sex. Weather you watch romantic movies, porn, music videos or all of the above, your head is full of unrealistic, fantasy-fueled depictions of sex. Romantic movies show

  • What You Don’t Know about Desire is Killing Your Sex Life

    It seems that everywhere we look we see couples in long term relationship suffering from challenges in their intimacy and sexual connection. More than half of all marriages end in divorce and a large number of those who stay married report feeling dissatisfaction in their sexual and emotional connection.

    At

  • Fair or Fulfilling – What kind of relationship do you want?

    Relationships aren’t fair. In our practice, we see a lot of hurt come from the idea that people are supposed to have perfect equality in relationship on everything from work to child-rearing, from emotional support to time with friends.

  • Monogamy: Just One Item On The Menu?

    … approach monogamy as just one of the items on the menu, not as the only thing possible.