How to Avoid Cheating
Cheating doesn’t just happen. When people make a commitment to their partner, they usually plan to keep it and if they choose to cheat or have an affair there is a reason behind their choice. To understand why people cheat read our blog.
If you are determined not to cheat you came to the right place. To avoid a situation where one of you is choosing to have an affair instead of being honest about your needs and desires you will ultimately need to create a safe space where each person’s desires can be shared openly. Every couple has some sort of spoken or unspoken relationship contract. Many couples do not do a good job of communicating their contract so they are not aware of each other’s expectations in the relationship. Even if you are aware of the expectations you each have, we find that many couples don’t open their relationship contract and don’t update it. Instead of looking at your marriage or relationship contract as a fixed entity, you will need to accept that your needs and desires will change throughout your lives and that you will need to develop tools to renegotiate if some agreement you have made isn’t working. If you are in a long term relationship and you have never talked about your unspoken contract working with a Somatica Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach is a great opportunity to do so.
In Somatica sex therapy, sex coaching and relationship coaching sessions you and your partner will have a supportive, non-judgmental and caring conversation about each of yours needs and desires. You will explore how each of you feel about these desires and learn how to negotiate when your desires are different. In session, you will talk about your unspoken relationship contract and see what is working for you and what isn’t. Then you will have an opportunity to consciously co-create a relationship contract that is responsive to each of your needs and boundaries. You will explore what your relationship is capable of giving you and talk openly about what to do if there are needs that are not being met in the relationship.
- More Confidence in Relationships
Nobody is perfect, yet sometimes we act as if we are flawless and blameless in our relationships. How to be more confident in relationships starts by letting go of perfection and working towards reconnection.
- A Love Sandwich
Thinking about the ingredients of a love sandwich…acceptance, celebration, integrity, openness and something meaty to bite into. More on that tomorrow…
- Become Comfortable with Nudity Through Foreplay
As Somatica practitioners, we applaud this note on how foreplay, touch and nudity all tie into body image and great sex.
- Something Meaty for the Sandwich
Ok, we know, we are skipping ahead, but we’ll get back to integrity and openness soon! Right now, all we can think about it something meaty to bite into. Hmmmmmm, maybe we’re ovulating! When we say that a love sandwich needs something meaty to bite into we mean this
- Monogamy: Just One Item On The Menu?
… approach monogamy as just one of the items on the menu, not as the only thing possible.
- Good Vibes Truth or Dare Game
As brand ambassador for Good Vibes, I recently had the pleasure of reviewing the Truth or Dare game, a simple yet intriguing card game for couples to add some extra passion in the bedroom – or living room. The game is simple and you can start playing immediately –
- Fair or Fulfilling – What kind of relationship do you want?
Relationships aren’t fair. In our practice, we see a lot of hurt come from the idea that people are supposed to have perfect equality in relationship on everything from work to child-rearing, from emotional support to time with friends.
- Forget Everything You Think You Know about Perfect Sex
Unless you live under a rock (with no cave drawings in sight), chances are you are constantly bombarded with images of perfect sex. Weather you watch romantic movies, porn, music videos or all of the above, your head is full of unrealistic, fantasy-fueled depictions of sex. Romantic movies show