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Dear Women, Part 2 – Deepen Desire

Dear Women,

The number one complaint of women around sexuality is low desire. While it might seem obvious, it bears mentioning that this has a lot to do with the fact that women are not getting the kind of sex that they want and are having a lot of sex without ever feeling aroused.  It is a universal truth that people gravitate towards experiences that are positive and avoid negative ones. If you are having sex for others the way they want it and those ways do not work for you, eventually you won’t want sex at all.

Many women think of sex as something that they do for their partners, they only have sex when their partner initiates and don’t even pay attention to their own desire as a way to know when they want to have sex. They end up coming to sex therapy because they are afraid of losing their relationship or they want to orgasm the way their partner wants them to orgasm (instead of the way they actually orgasm) or they want to enjoy sex because their partner had an affair and they want to be desirable.

The focus on their partner’s needs or getting or keeping a relationship and having sex that is not for them are some of the main reasons women have low desire.

If you want to feel your desire for sex, you must go through the process of a sexual awakening that is for and about you. You must stop having sex for other people and have it for yourself for reasons that feel good to you. You have to stop faking pleasure or orgasms and teach your partner how to give you the sex you want, and, if you don’t know what that is, you need to find out. You have to find your best paths to orgasm and claim that as the right path to orgasm for you instead of trying to have the orgasms you think you are supposed to have.

You have to wait until you are fully warmed up before trying to move towards orgasm. And, as a bonus, you can also find out what your true pleasure potential is by learning how to have multiple orgasms, G-Spot orgasms, and possibly even female ejaculation.