Celeste & Danielle Offer Sex and Relationship Coaching for a Passionate, Connected and Fulfilling Life

Couple’s Coaching – Why Hands-On?

It always amazes us how much information and transformation happens when we begin to coach experientially and hands-on with couples. While talking and learning to communicate face to face is very productive, when it comes to sex, much of the communication is non-verbal. Many people find it challenging to communicate their desires, to check on their partner if they are not sure that they are engaged in the sexual encounter, and to tell a partner when they are or aren’t enjoying themselves.

When we introduce hands on coaching to couples, some get nervous: “Do you want us to have sex in front of you?” As much as it might sound arousing to the reader, it can also be scary, and bring taboos and fears immediately to the surface – therefore we always stay within a couple’s comfort level. When a couple begins touching each other in the coaching room, a whole different aspect of their relating appears in the room. For example, when they explore a connecting breath, they might find out that they have strong connection on a heart level but nowhere else, they just aren’t feeling each other sexually. When they begin caressing each other, even when it comes to face and hand caresses, the real dynamics between them surface. When we see people interact at this level of intimacy, we can target our coaching much more quickly. For example, we might find that one partner is very dominant and that the other partner is terrified to move or touch with confidence. We might see that one is too focused on orgasm, and forgets to have fun (this is exactly when orgasms become stubborn and sneaky, and gets away from us without peaking). We love helping couples connect when they touch, caress, and make love. We love helping them ask for what they want and communicate their desires. We love watching them realize that YES – there is hope for their sexual relationship. We love watching them connect on a deeper, more fulfilling and more intimate level.

Comments ( 3 )

  • Ed says:

    Is it really that easy for a couple to forget someone else is there? I was thinking of a golf lesson and someone watching my golf swing, I get more conscious of the club and doing it right then just playing the game. On the other hand, this sounds like more fun getting feedback on sex than golf. The clubs are gathering dust in the garage.

  • Lee says:

    I really wish I could talk my wife into letting us get some couples coaching. I have nearly told myself that giving up sex was one of the costs of being married to her. She really needs a woman to tell her that it is OK to be sexy. How do I get in touch with you all to see about giving my wife some encouragement for this coaching.

  • Adele says:

    If you have trouble asking for what you need in your relationship, how best to bring up the idea of a couple’s retreat with your partner?