Erotic Embodiment Quiz

Self

• When I walk out my door into the world I usually feel



	Connected to my body and in touch with what is going on in the world around me.
	Rushed and thinking about what I need to do today, tomorrow and for the rest of my life.
	Physically worn out but, other than that, generally clear and open.
	Angry and upset about the people in my life who have done things that hurt me.

• When I meet someone new whom I find attractive, I focus on



	Memorizing their name and trying to keep the conversation going as best as I can.
	Wondering what they are thinking about me and trying to make myself attractive to them.
	Relaxing any nervous energy I have by breathing while listening to their ideas and feelings and sharing my own.
	Being present with the person while keeping in touch with how I feel in their presence.

• When I masturbate, I



	Explore my fantasies, expanding on them to keep them fresh and interesting, while feeling the sensations in my body and taking time to please myself.
	Turn on my favorite sex scene and go straight for my genitals, the whole thing takes about 2 minutes.
	Take the time to make a comfortable place for myself, touch my whole body, make love to myself, and give my body exactly what it wants.
	I don’t masturbate; it makes me feel dirty, guilty, shameful or pathetic.

• People who know me or who meet me for the first time would describe me as



	Attractive and friendly, easy to get along with.
	Glowing with magnetic energy that makes me irresistible.
	Closed and negative, not someone they really like to spend time with.
	Sweet but very shy, hard to get to know.

Relationship

• My partner is



	Perfect in every way.
	An amazing combination of traits that I love and admire, and some that are not perfect.
	A real mess, but I’m trying to help them get better.
	Great, but I prefer blondes/hunks and if the right one came along who knows.

• In my relationship, pornography and fantasies are



	An important way for me to get what I need sexually since I can’t tell my partner about my actual fantasy life.
	Is a great way to release and enliven my fantasy life and share that with my partner.
	Disgusting, I only have sex to please my partner so I would never look at porn or fantasize.
	The only outlet for my erotic energy.

• Ideally my partner and I spend



	Every free waking moment together.
	Quality one on one time together as well as time with friends and family both together and separately.
	A reasonable amount of time together as long as I don’t have to change my schedule, and I have plenty of alone time.
	The amount of time it takes to get each others clothes off, have sex, and clean up afterwards.

• For my partner and I, sex is



	Nonexistant.
	A spiritual experience; anything else would be meaningless.
	Fun and orgasmic, but I’m often distracted by all of the other things I need to do.
	The place that we go to share some of the deepest parts of ourselves, it is playful and creative – there are times when it feels spiritual, dirty, animalistic, romantic, passionate, funny, I could go on and on.