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Many people rightfully complain that Valentine’s day is a “Hallmark” holiday, a creation by flower and candy pushers to make some extra money by selling cheap heart-shaped boxes and overly expensive red bouquets. We believe that Valentine’s day is simply one more day where you can remember to fully connect with all that is in your heart and share it. We also believe, if you get connected with your heart, the day can be so much more.

Reclaim the Heart of Romance

Romance is a funny thing. If we digress and get technical about it, it is simply a set of co-created behaviors that build and cement emotional connection. If we get slightly less technical, it is the verbal and physical expression of your deepest felt emotions and vulnerabilities.

Being in a state of romantic love is a bit crazy-making, an emotional roller-coaster full of unknowns and surprises where you move in and out of merging with another person and get a deeper look at who you are in the process.

Romantic movies capitalize on the delciousness of this feeling by focusing only on the beginning of this process and leaving out all of the rest that comes with opening to someone and letting them in to that level of vulnerability. As people fall more deeply and fully into love, all sorts of things begin to show up – insecurities, attachments, and all of the differences that exist between any two people. As the world rushes in, couple’s often question if romance can last a lifetime. We say yes – if you recognize it, cultivate it and deepen it when it shows up and, if you don’t expect it to be there all the time.

Love is a feeling, and like any feeling we have, we can claim it for ourselves, fully let it in, fully express it, and feel it spread through our whole bodies. This is true romance – flowers can be a symbol of it, but so can saying, “I tried to buy you flowers today and they didn’t have any that even remotely expressed all the feelings I’m having for you right now, or how beautiful you are to me.”

When we get to hear a sentence like that from that special someone while they are looking into our eyes, or touching our face, or smiling with their most fabulous smile, and we take a deep breath and let all of that feeling shoot and spread and move through us and send it back to them with our eyes, that is romance and those kinds of moments can be scattered through a lifetime with someone if we take the time to create them and feel them. This Valentine’s Day, leave the chocolate and the cards at the doorstep and try really letting yourself feel someone you love and love them back.

Here is one more chapter except of our book “Cockfidence – The Extraordinary Lover’s Guide to Being the Man You Want to Be and Driving Women Wild”.

— Quality 5 – Passion —

To really excite and intrigue any woman, you need to be passionate about more than just her; you need to begin to look at your whole life through passionate eyes. If you are currently living your life based on what you should do instead of what interests or intrigues you, it is time to find your own path that excites and inspires you, and to support the women in your life in finding their passion too. It is possible to bring passion into every part of your life, and a Cockfident man feels passion for his work flowing into passion for his hobbies, flowing into passion for his partner.

Live a Life of Passion

Do you remember what you wanted to be when you grew up? As a boy, there were probably many activities and topics you were passionate about and we hope there still are. If, in the time it took to read this last paragraph about passion, you haven’t already identified three things you are passionate about (not including your partner if you have one), then it is time for you to reacquaint yourself with your passionate side. Your sense of freedom and power rests on your ability to enjoy your own life and give your gift to the world. There is nothing more attractive than someone who is willing to follow through with what they truly believe. Notice if you are judging any of your passions as trivial or discounting them. Notice whose voices are in your head naysaying or criticizing. Just for a moment, see if you can suspend the judgmental voice and remember what you are passionate about. You might also think about how your family of origin responded to ideas or desires that inspired you and how they communicated their expectations.

Take some time to ponder or write on the following questions:

• What is a topic that you could talk about for hours without tiring?
• What activities do you do that make you feel more like yourself?
• What are things that you do for your friends or family that make you feel most proud and content?
• What ideas and experiences grab your interest and make your heart beat faster?

Now check what percentage of your life is spent in the pursuit of these activities, ideas and experiences. Is it enough? Only you know the answer to this question, only you can decide what you want your life to look like, and only you can know the right way to live your life.

We recently launched our book “Cockfidence – The Extraordinary Lover’s Guide to Being the Man You Want to Be and Driving Women Wild”, a straightforward guide that will show you how to attract sexual desire from women and bring them to the heights of their erotic and orgasmic potential. You will find your personal power, clarify who you are and what you want in your life, and have mind-blowing sex and passionate connections with women.

For the next few weeks we will post excerpts of our book here.  We are convinced you will enjoy this preview so much that you will order your own copy!

Enjoy week one!

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INTRODUCTION

In our practice, we meet men who want to be themselves and understand what women want sexually and interpersonally. We have so much compassion for men; men and women are very different and it can be very confusing to try to figure out what women want. In the process of connecting with women, there are many stumbling blocks that may pull you out of your center. These include hiding your sexual desire for fear of rejection; misunderstanding women, their emotions and their desires; or fearing that connecting with a woman in any way means making a commitment, even if you aren’t ready.

There is an art to becoming the kind of man who claims his own desires and satisfies a woman’s deepest longings. This book teaches you the secret connection between stepping into your power and igniting a woman’s desire. The secret is found in your connection with your sexual energy and we call this connection Cockfidence.

This book is for all men whether single, dating, in a relationship or married; it also for all women who want to support the men in their lives and learn about their own sexuality. For a man who is single or dating, Cockfidence means you approach women with ease and playfulness and attract them with sincerity, not deception. You are also confident in your sexual desire and know you’ve got what it takes to please them sexually. For men in a new relationship, Cockfidence means knowing your partner wants you. You also know how to create a safe space where your partner can open up to you and give all of herself, sexually and emotionally. For men in long-term relationship or married men, Cockfidence means that, once the honeymoon period is over and the hormones are fading, you know how to keep seduction and creativity alive. You also leave room for growth and change in your sex life and your relationship. Finally, this book is for women who want to better understand themselves and their partner and support him in growing his Cockfidence.

The relationship between your power and freedom and women’s sexual desire (and her own freedom and power) is complex. There are no books or experts out there who lay it all out in one place. There are pieces about how to be a good technical lover and how to pick up and bed women, and some even touch on long-term relationships with women. Others cover masculine power or uncovering the mystery of women, but no book has brought all of these aspects together in one short, straight-forward and practical manual. Until now.