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Vibrators, what is all the fuss about vibrators? The bottom line is that most women, even if they love penetration and other types of vaginal stimulation, still need some good, focused clitoral stimulation to be able to orgasm. Many women need LOTS of clitoral stimulation to come. But, many women are afraid to bring vibrators to the bedroom. Here are some common reasons why women deny themselves this pleasurable treat:

• They are afraid that they might hurt their partner’s ego, fearing he might be thinking “Does this mean that I am not a good enough lover?”
• They fear that something is wrong with them if they need a vibrator to come, so they are willing to forgo orgasms during sex or only have them occasionally.
• They feel (or fear that their partners will feel) that vibrators are not “NATURAL”.
• They are afraid that they will become addicted to vibrators and not be able to have orgasms through other sexual experiences

In response, here are some of our personal and professional thoughts about vibrators:
Using a vibrator during sex is as natural as eating with a fork or spoon, if we still did everything “naturally,” we’d be living in caves eating raw meat and berries. In the age of electricity and batteries, why not use some BUZZ to make our sex lives more fulfilling? The fact is, we refer to vibrators as man’s best friend in bed (the dog may not be much help here)! When using a vibrator’s you can also use your hands, fingers, cock, tongue and your words to drive her wild, and with the vibrator’s help she can enjoy many orgasms instead of focusing all attention to squeeze one little one out, or worse, to fake one. As for the fear that vibrators might be addictive… studies have shown that this simply is not the case.

Here is what a couple of our women clients said after we helped them embrace their vibrators:

“I now officially love vibrators and am going to tell everyone who will listen—i had the fuck of my life last night— i pulled out that Hitachi, proud as a new mother!”

AND…

“I just had to tell you – I *just* ordered my first vibrator (okay, THREE!) online – Hooray!!!! :-)
THANKS for helping to inspire me to get over my silly inhibitions and fears and to do what will bring me pleasure and joy in this life – What a blessed thing! Your workshop truly was inspiring, healing, empowering, and *just* what I needed in my life right now…. I’m committed to giving my pussy the love she deserves (and being sure she gets what she needs from my man as well!). HOORAY for that… Of course, even more importantly, I’m committed to giving my body and soul what it needs, feeding the goddess in me… But – the pussy is the source of the life-force (where babies come from after all!) – “The pussy is the path.” ;-)
Love you both!!!”

We invite you to try it out yourself and let us know what you think….

xox,

Danielle and Celeste

I was pretty stormy today…very emotional…in a way that only women can be. I almost forgot that I just came back from a relaxing weekend in Harbin Hot Springs that rejuvenated me and replenished my energy. I sat in front of the computer trying to answer some emails and move along with the day…nothing happened! I was sitting there biting my nails and then I remembered Celeste’s glowing face after she made a list of some of the things that give her pleasure, and decided to give it a try…so…what gives me pleasure is…

• Being heard and understood
• A good, warm hug
• A good cry or emotional release
• Seeing people transform and accept themselves right in front of my eyes
• Soaking in a deep, warm pool and feeling my breasts float, partly exposed to the cool air
• Dipping in a hot pool and then cold and hot over and over again and noticing how my body moves from tension and resistance to complete surrender, from surrender to fullness, and from fullness to joy and laughter – YES
• Coming to a place where I embrace my imperfections and say the hell with it
• Sunbathing in the nude and feeling the sun spread on my skin from my face to my neck to my belly to my pussy and between my legs
• Cuddling with my partner and watching a movie
• Having deep, connected, slow, intense, synchronized sex – being penetrated to the depth of my soul and being held there…
• Submitting to my desire when I feel horny, and initiating hot impatient sex
• Dipping good chocolate in hot cafe latte, and licking it slowly allowing it to melt in my mouth
• Eating food slowly when I am hungry
• Watching my kids cooperate and take care of each other
• Cuddling and laughing with my kids
• Asking for what I want
• A good massage given by a talented masseur
• Spreading my body naked in bed after a long day, and feeling the softness of the sheets caress my body
• Feeling my nipples get erect, and feeling arousal and aliveness spread in my body when it has nothing to do with sex

While typing I allowed myself to really embody the experience, I noticed how my body became relaxed, filled with joy, expanded, and felt more alive and aroused…
I can’t wait to get some inspiration from you all and find out what gives you pleasure…

xoxo,
Danielle

Sometimes when we walk through our day to day lives, we forget to check in and see if we are even enjoying ourselves. Because Danielle and I believe so deeply in the importance of living a pleasure-filled life, we often play a game with ourselves called, “What Gives Me Pleasure” where we take five minutes to list everything we can think of RIGHT NOW that does or would give us pleasure. Here is my latest list, what’s on yours?

• The slippery feeling of avocado across my tongue
• The sound of people’s voices when they feel excited or motivated about their lives
• Staring deeply into a persons eyes until I can see their soul glimmering through
• Brainstorming my next crazy adventure with my family and friends
• Being held in the strong embrace of someone who I love and who loves me
• The smell of vanilla and rose oils
• The way the sun feels when it hits my pussy during naked sunbathing
• The taste of coconut butter
• Sliding my hands along my hips and massaging my lower back
• Stretching my arms up as high as I can reach and letting out a deep sigh
• Lightly touching the softest part of a person’s body
• Deeply holding the hardest part of a person’s body
• Puer tea and everything else that tastes like the earth
• Bellydancing and belly laughing with my sisters
• Deep sleep with vivid dreams, bundled in the warmth of soft, fuzzy blankets
• Historical fiction or any other fiction that makes me stop for a second and see life from a different point of view
• Small dogs with flat or funny faces
• The way that tropical weather makes my whole body moist inside and out
• My mothers homemade tinctures
• The sound of my father’s voice when he reads to me

In passion,
Celeste

Have you ever wanted to know what secretly goes on in the minds of two sex and intimacy coaches? In this blog we are going to expose the ins and outs of passion, sexual excitement, intimacy, erotic power, sensuality and ecstasy. Our deepest purpose is for you to discover and experience the heights of your sexual potential and to live your life fully in every moment. We do it by diving into life and savoring it like tasting our favorite foods or the rush of a rollercoaster ride. In service of this goal, we will share with you personal stories, tips and tricks, anonymous success stories of individuals and couples with whom we’ve worked (with their consent, of course!) and so much more. We would love your comments, questions, ideas and feedback. Don’t wait another moment watching your life happen from afar, take a leap of faith and dive right in, the water is divine…